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Dealing with Toxic People: Stop Playing Their Game


Dealing with Toxic People: Have you ever met with a group of people – friends, family,
coworkers, where you felt utterly drained by their negativity? I swear, I’ve
entered these situations looking like a grape and leaving a raisin. These
people literally sucked the life out of me.

Dealing with toxic people presents a great challenge. We are
exposed to their desire and addiction to stirring shit up and taking a crap on
your day. They love to look for the fight and negativity in
everything
and they aren’t happy until they have smeared their crap on the portrait of
life. It’s draining and annoying.

When dealing with toxic people, it’s important to understand
that they are looking to draw you into their world – like a tractor beam using
its force to drag a captive space ship into the evil mother ship. Where’s Luke,
Han Solo, and Chewie when you need them??!!

They subscribe to the mindset of “misery loves company” and
love being on center stage bellowing their rage of the day.

 

Toxic people have a tendency of being self-centered,
self-absorbed, manipulative and deceitful. They take pride in creating drama
and conflict. Another trait is not showing compassion to others. They also tend
to speak in terms of monologues rather than two-way conversations.

 

They should come with an off switch or a mute button.

 

Here are some suggestions for keeping yourself sane and
taking the wind out of toxic peoples’ sails:

 

  • Call them out on their behavior. Be prepared for
    pushback. Tell them how their behavior makes you feel. Let them know that they
    are having a negative or painful effect on you.
  • For a lighter version of the previous
    suggestion, respectfully disagree with them and be sure to highlight “your
    take” of the situation with positive examples.
  • Resist the temptation to join their party. We
    all have our complaints, but don’t feed into theirs.
  • Set boundaries and make it clear that you won’t
    subject yourself to their negativity or manipulation.
  • Stop giving to them if all they do is take.
  • Ignore them.
  • Limit your time with them. If necessary, make
    yourself unavailable to them.
  • Change your routine. If they always find you in
    the break room, consider having lunch elsewhere. Anywhere except the restroom!!
  • Simply respond with “I’m sorry you had that
    experience.”
  • Attempt to change the subject by complimenting
    them on a job well done, acknowledging the beauty of their home and landscape,
    or highlighting their positive attributes.
  • Ask them to change the subject. Be calm, but be
    firm.
  • Discuss some of your challenges and how you
    overcame them by being positive, courageous, and determined.
  • Try the one or two word response, something
    short that will make them realize you aren’t taking their bait.
  • Master the “quick getaway.” Have a few good
    lines in your arsenal for when you must simply eject yourself from the
    situation. Consider saying: “I’m sorry, but I have an important appointment
    (phone call, etc.) and need to be on my way.” Something along these lines will
    help you.

 

There will never be a shortage of toxic people. Following
these suggestions should help you manage these people more effectively. As
always, feel free to add to this list. Use what works for you.

 

Wishing you peace and happiness as you continue to color
your life’s portrait …

 

Just be sure to use non-toxic crayons. ~Ted


As You Continue Dealing with Toxic People…
Remember to be good to yourself

You are what you feed yourself. I’m not just talking about your body. You are what you feed your mind, as well. You’re a whole package! 

I encourage you to take a look in the Self-Help Shop for more ingredients to boost your body and your mind.

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